Different Go-Givers tend to focus on adding value to others in different ways, often in alignment with their own values, likes, etc. For example, as an avid reader, I love to add value to others by referring books — books that I love, books that have made a huge difference in my life and, mainly, books that I believe can make a huge difference in the lives of many others.
One such book is The No Complaining Rule by corporate speaker, entrepreneur and great guy Jon Gordon. He has written a magnificent story that can change a family, a group, a business organization one person at a time.
Like The Go-Giver, it’s a business parable, and thus a quick, easy, fun read.
Jon’s book meant a lot to me because . . . may I admit something to you? Lately, I’ve fallen into a complaining habit. I’m not usually like that. However – as Jon points out in the book – it is indeed a habit. Interestingly, during my complaining spell, I’ve been a bit disconnected from my usual feeling of gratitude, my energy level has been down, and my work hasn’t been as effective. While reading his book, I realized that is exactly how I’ve felt lately. And it was clearly a result of my complaining (I mean, think about it: how can you complain . . . and feel good?)
Even better, in his neat little story, Jon provides the cure. And, it’s working for me already. In fact, his suggestions work the very instant you read them and decide to act; they’re that simple and easy. And you know what? . . . I’m feeling great, thank you beddy much. 🙂
Pick up the book, give it a read or two, and pass it along. You’ll be glad you did. And, I bet you won’t hear a single complaint about it.
This post aligns with some research and reading I have recently been doing. The old adage that if you let the team vent and get out their disapointments about each other, you can move forward as a organization and start clean, NO! NO! NO!
Brain based research shows that venting / complaining does nothing to improve effectiveness of team and the individuals on the teams.
What does work (Go-Giver) is praise, attributes you admire about others and yourself. Things you admire about your self and others. This starts and feels slightly contrived at first, with practice it becomes habit. With this habit attitudes and cultural environments improve.
Like Attracts Like.
It’s like what Wallace Wattles says, if your focus is on the best, you will receive the best. If you focus on the best virtues of people, you simply get more of that AND it keeps you from complaining and focusing about the negative aspects of life.
Though this is not a book I have read yet, I found it an interesting topic at this time of economic adventure. There is so much negative floating around out there. It is sometimes difficult to rise to the more positive outlooks that could possibly lie ahead. I must admit, when the world around you is abuzz with complaints and venting, it is difficult to move ahead without that energy affecting your own judgment.
I am for action and preparation. I am going to read the book and look for the gems of wisdom to carry on … without complaining!