Bob and I often say on interviews that readers tell us, “The first four laws, those felt comfortable — but that fifth law? That Law of Receptivity? Man, that one made me squirm.”
It’s quite amazing, how deeply ingrained it seems to be, in so many of us, that it’s good to be a giver, but not okay to receive. (How did you respond the last time someone gave you a big fat compliment?)
The other day we received the following note from a reader; I cried when I read it. After you read it, I’ll share my response.
Yesterday, I attended a group led by [a friend]. During that group, The Go-Giver was mentioned; I was curious and purchased the book. My curiosity was piqued because I have been told numerous times that I am a giver and not a taker.
As dinner was cooking, my husband and son were occupied, so I opened the book, planning to read a page or two before dinner. To my amazement, I was swept away — I read your book, no, not read, I absorbed your book in one night.
I was amazed by two things. One was that the individuals who said I was a giver and not a taker were right. I do give, and I don’t take. But what no one ever told me was that it is okay to receive.
I have given and given, never accepting anything in return. If someone did something nice for me in return, I always felt guilty or responded with, “Please, I couldn’t possibly accept,” until they stopped trying. I have given and not accepted anything in return for so long that I have lost myself along the way.
Just like your character Debra Davenport once was, I am a failed real estate agent. I have never even had a client, never mind a sale, but it is because I have tried to be someone I am not and have been focused on the end result. I have felt invisible and insignificant — I cried when I read your book, which may sound stupid, but my life is almost in ruins, and I now feel that I can turn that around.
My first step: realizing that I add value in my personal and social life. I plan on “becoming” Joe. What I mean by that is I am going to use the laws and I am going to apply one each day, starting today.
I am reading the book for a second time, it is so uplifting. I plan on making some changes, big and small!
I wanted to thank you for this gift that you have given me.
Real Estate Agent
In my note back to her, I wrote, “If we never heard from a single soul, never got a single note from any other reader but this one from you, it would have been worth all the effort to write and publish the book.”