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Summary
We’re often told that our mind is much like a computer. That’s certainly true in terms of our default settings. We’ll look at that in our Thought of the Day. In the second segment, there is no interview this week, but instead we will look at the dramas that are part of these default settings we’re discussing — ours and those of others and how to work effectively within them. That and more on today’s show.
Bob’s Thought of the Day
We’ll explore:
- What your default setting is, and why you may need to change it.
- Examples of default settings when an uncomfortable situation occurs.
- How a positive default setting makes Lisa Wilber a very effective leader.
- Six quick and simple steps to resetting your personal default system and dramatically increasing your influence.
Segment 2
You’ll discover:
- The concept of “personal dramas” — emotional reactions we have when faced with stressful situations.
- Three steps to handling pressure situations and turning potential adversaries into allies.
- Two personal examples of how to handle a person’s default setting appropriately.
- Why it’s important to acknowledge and understand others’ default settings if you want to lead, persuade, and influence them successfully.
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About the Book
The Go-Giver tells the story of an ambitious young man named Joe who yearns for success. Joe is a true go-getter, though sometimes he feels as if the harder and faster he works, the further away his goals seem to be. Joe learns that shifting his focus from getting to giving — constantly and consistently creating value for others — leads to exceptional returns.
Rapidly going from national bestseller to global phenomenon, The Go-Giver has gained a devoted following with over a million copies sold. It’s utilized as a resource in major corporations to small businesses, in schools and churches, in book clubs, and more. Nearly a decade since its original publication, this timeless story continues to help its readers find fulfillment and greater success in business, in their personal lives and in their communities.
Great podcast. I’ll be tuning in regularly and ordering my copy of The Go-Giver shortly (assuming that is the first book in the series.) My default setting was previously to look out for numero uno. When I came to the realization that my way wasn’t working, I changed and determined that the best way was to err on the side of love. If I serve the people in front of me, regardless of “what’s in it for me”, I’m way better off. It’s been a long spiritual journey, and I’ve been known to stray back into selfishness. But as I get older, I find it easier to get back on track.
Hi Dwayne, thank you so much for your thoughtful post and kind words. Yes, The Go-Giver is the original book in the series. I hope you enjoy it. Regarding your thought about serving the people in front of you, regardless of “what’s in it for {you}” indeed, you’ll find that when you consistently do that, great things come to you more often than the other way. Not for any magical or mystical reasons but for very logical ones: when people know that you genuinely have their best interests at heart they’re much more likely to like you, to trust you, and to want to be a part of your world. So, it turns out – in a sense – that placing other people’s interests first is actually one of the most “selfish” things we can consistently do. ;-). Keep up the great work, my friend!